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Dharma Talks
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2025-10-11
As Best as I Am Able: Living into Equanimity
23:42
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Gina LaRoche
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In this honest and tender talk, Gina LaRoche reflects on equanimity as a lived practice of non-reactivity — meeting life’s waves, insomnia, loss, and uncertainty with steadiness and care. Drawing on her teacher DaRa Williams and the “seven brahmavihāras,” she explores forgiveness, generosity, and gratitude as daily companions on the path toward a balanced, open heart.
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2025-10-11
Still Water Flowing: The Discipline of Equanimity
30:21
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Nico Hase
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In this talk, nico hase unpacks equanimity as a living, relational practice — not numbness, but steadiness in the middle of praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and pain. Through stories (including a flying blender), Tibetan and Zen frames, and simple training phrases like “May I find stillness in the midst of change,” he shows how returning again and again to balance lets us live with less drama, more compassion, and an open hand toward the world.
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2025-09-13
Metta Is Like Hard Candy
22:36
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Nico Hase
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In this teaching, nico hase reflects on how loving-kindness practice can feel unyielding at first — like holding hard candy in the mouth — yet through steady presence, what once seemed solid begins to soften. We discover how even pain, when met with patient attention, can dissolve into compassion and connection.
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2025-08-09
The Strength We Already Have
29:37
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Nico Hase
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A dharma talk exploring adhitthana (resolve/determination) through the story of Milarepa, the Tibetan yogi who transformed from a vengeful sorcerer into Tibet's most beloved Buddhist practitioner. Nico discusses how spiritual practice requires uncomfortable heat and urgency (samvega), how purification is often difficult work, and the four types of resolve: wisdom, truth, generosity, and peace. He emphasizes that determination is always communal - we never practice alone but are supported by teachers, sangha, and the natural world.
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2025-08-09
Holding Fast and Staying True
33:35
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Devin Berry
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A dharma talk exploring adhitthana (resolve) as a spiritual practice rooted in ancestral wisdom and lived experience. Devin shares personal stories and examples of how resolve manifests not as willpower or force, but as a quiet, steady commitment to returning again and again to what matters most - whether in meditation practice or in responding to the world's suffering with fierce compassion.
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2025-07-12
Patience is for Nibbana: The Path to Liberation Through Forbearance
28:40
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Nico Hase
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In this dharma talk, Nico explores how the Buddhist perfection of patience (khanti parami) serves as a direct pathway to touching nibbana. He outlines three ways patience leads to awakening: dismantling the reactive mind, removing hindrances, and supporting sustained practice. Drawing on poetry and practical examples, Nico shows how our difficulties become the very path itself, transforming our relationships and strengthening our engagement with the world.
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Refuge of Belonging
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2025-06-14
Practicing Bold Patience: Cultivating Khanti Parami in Urgent Times
36:24
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Celeste Young
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In this dharma talk, Celeste explores the Buddhist perfection of patience (khanti parami) as a "bold patience" that helps us stay present with life's difficulties without reactive fermentation. Through personal stories and practical guidance, she shows how true patience serves as a bridge to responsive wisdom, allowing us to skillfully navigate the turbulence of existence rather than being swept away by habitual reactions.
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2025-05-10
Finding Inspiration for the Path
29:32
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Nico Hase
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The talk explores how inspiration (from Latin "to breathe into") serves as a vital energy source for spiritual practice, examining four powerful reflections that have guided Buddhist practitioners for centuries: the preciousness of life, the inevitability of death, the truth of karma, and the suffering caused by clinging. Through personal stories about life-changing decisions and poetic illustrations, nico illuminates how recognizing these four truths can transform our relationship with energy (virya) and soften our contracted sense of self, ultimately creating space for greater freedom and peace.
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2025-05-10
Energy: The Lifeblood of the Buddhist Path
28:28
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Dawn Mauricio
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The talk explores virya (energy) as a multidimensional quality essential to Buddhist practice, discussing how it functions as the "rudder and motor" that propels practitioners forward while serving as an antidote to sloth and torpor. Dawn shares personal experiences of struggling with having "too much energy" and feeling like a "bad yogi," while illuminating how embracing this quality in all its manifestations—from mild interest to balanced effort—can transform one's practice and cultivate joy. The talk invites practitioners to connect with what they trust in and have confidence in as a way to spark the balanced energy that brings forth the joy of practicing.
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