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Dharma Talks
given at Refuge of Belonging
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2026-01-10
Dana is Receiving and Giving
23:36
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Nico Hase
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In this intimate and practical talk, Nico explores dāna not just as generosity, but as the living rhythm of receiving and giving. Beginning with the body and the breath, he shows how generosity softens clinging and loosens the “dream of dissatisfaction.” Through stories, reflections on boundaries, and teachings on interdependence, he reframes dāna as making space—listening for what is needed in ea
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2026-01-10
Deep Listening and the Path of Unbinding
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Nico Hase
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We're caught in a dream of thoughts, roles, identities, and emotional reactivity. Rather than fighting or believing the dream, we practice deep listening to body, heart, and mind with unconditional welcome. Through this listening, we make four discoveries: the dream is stressful, bondage to it is suffering, unbinding brings peace, and there's a path. The ten paramis (perfections) gradually wake us
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2025-10-11
As Best as I Am Able: Living into Equanimity
23:42
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Gina LaRoche
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In this honest and tender talk, Gina LaRoche reflects on equanimity as a lived practice of non-reactivity — meeting life’s waves, insomnia, loss, and uncertainty with steadiness and care. Drawing on her teacher DaRa Williams and the “seven brahmavihāras,” she explores forgiveness, generosity, and gratitude as daily companions on the path toward a balanced, open heart.
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2025-10-11
Still Water Flowing: The Discipline of Equanimity
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Nico Hase
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In this talk, nico hase unpacks equanimity as a living, relational practice — not numbness, but steadiness in the middle of praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and pain. Through stories (including a flying blender), Tibetan and Zen frames, and simple training phrases like “May I find stillness in the midst of change,” he shows how returning again and again to balance lets us live with less drama, more compassion, and an open hand toward the world.
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2025-09-13
Metta Is Like Hard Candy
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Nico Hase
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In this teaching, nico hase reflects on how loving-kindness practice can feel unyielding at first — like holding hard candy in the mouth — yet through steady presence, what once seemed solid begins to soften. We discover how even pain, when met with patient attention, can dissolve into compassion and connection.
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2025-08-09
The Strength We Already Have
29:37
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Nico Hase
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A dharma talk exploring adhitthana (resolve/determination) through the story of Milarepa, the Tibetan yogi who transformed from a vengeful sorcerer into Tibet's most beloved Buddhist practitioner. Nico discusses how spiritual practice requires uncomfortable heat and urgency (samvega), how purification is often difficult work, and the four types of resolve: wisdom, truth, generosity, and peace. He emphasizes that determination is always communal - we never practice alone but are supported by teachers, sangha, and the natural world.
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2025-08-09
Holding Fast and Staying True
33:35
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Devin Berry
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A dharma talk exploring adhitthana (resolve) as a spiritual practice rooted in ancestral wisdom and lived experience. Devin shares personal stories and examples of how resolve manifests not as willpower or force, but as a quiet, steady commitment to returning again and again to what matters most - whether in meditation practice or in responding to the world's suffering with fierce compassion.
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2025-07-12
Patience is for Nibbana: The Path to Liberation Through Forbearance
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Nico Hase
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In this dharma talk, Nico explores how the Buddhist perfection of patience (khanti parami) serves as a direct pathway to touching nibbana. He outlines three ways patience leads to awakening: dismantling the reactive mind, removing hindrances, and supporting sustained practice. Drawing on poetry and practical examples, Nico shows how our difficulties become the very path itself, transforming our relationships and strengthening our engagement with the world.
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2025-06-14
Practicing Bold Patience: Cultivating Khanti Parami in Urgent Times
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Celeste Young
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In this dharma talk, Celeste explores the Buddhist perfection of patience (khanti parami) as a "bold patience" that helps us stay present with life's difficulties without reactive fermentation. Through personal stories and practical guidance, she shows how true patience serves as a bridge to responsive wisdom, allowing us to skillfully navigate the turbulence of existence rather than being swept away by habitual reactions.
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